Don’t Communicate With Me – Just Talk to Me
Don’t Communicate With Me – Just Talk to Me
Free Online Articles Directory
Why Submit Articles?
Top Authors
Top Articles
FAQ
ABAnswers
0 && $.browser.msie ) {
var ie_version = parseInt($.browser.version);
if(ie_version Login
Register
Hello
My Home
Sign Out
Email
Password
Remember me?
Lost Password?
Home Page > Self Improvement > Public Speaking > Don’t Communicate With Me – Just Talk to Me
Don’t Communicate With Me – Just Talk to Me
Posted: Nov 24, 2011 |Comments: 0
|
]]>
Don’t Communicate With Me – Just Talk to Me
by Connie H. Deutsch
Maybe it was just one of those days. I was hot, tired, and trying to keep my appointments on schedule and I wasn’t in the mood for people who couldn’t use plain words to get their point across.
On this day, a man leaving a message on my voice mail identified himself, stated the purpose of his call, and then said, “I would appreciate a return call so I can communicate with you.” I deleted the message.
Communicate with me? Whatever happened to talk to me? I can’t remember ever leaving a message for someone saying that I wanted to communicate with him, although I don’t hesitate to use the term, communicate, when it’s appropriate. An informal voice mail message is not appropriate.
Judith Martin, (Miss Manners), said, “Let us make a special effort to stop communicating with each other, so we can have some conversation.”
People don’t stop to consider how their words are affecting the listener. They are more interested in communicating rather than talking. They are more concerned with how they sound than with what they are saying.
My friend had just started taking classes toward her Psychology degree and every other sentence out of her mouth was about this one “interfacing” with that one. I must have heard the word “interface” in all its conjugations, at least twenty times during our conversation. Funny, in all the years we had been friends, I never heard that word from her. It was as though she had learned a new word and she was determined to use it at every opportunity.
Let’s not forget the word, paradigm. All during the years that paradigm came tripping off the tongues of everyone, I couldn’t force myself to use it. I used every synonym I could think of but I couldn’t use that word. It’s been a while since it stopped being in vogue and just last week, I found myself using it for the first time in all these years. Maybe it’s because I haven’t seen it in print or heard it in conversation for such a long time that it found its way into my vernacular.
]]>
Now, there’s the word iconic. Everyone and everything seems to be iconic these days. I am so sick of that word that it gives me hives to even think about it.
It used to have a special meaning. Whenever I thought about something being iconic, I placed it in the category of it being distinctive, unusual, unique, exceptional. Nowadays, that word is used indiscriminately to describe almost everyone and everything. It has become so common that it has lost its significance. One of the sources that I ran across said that it had been used 18,000 times in news stories, so how unique could those people or things being described be?
And let’s not forget the word, icon. Until computers were invented, an icon usually referred to a religious work of art, more often a painting or a sacred object. When computers came along, we were introduced to small symbolic pictures, called icons, which appear on your screen as shortcuts to access a program or data.
Unfortunately, icons are being used in excess these days and many of them are so ridiculous that you can’t even tell what they’re supposed to mean. Some websites have more icons than words and if you don’t understand what they represent, it’s sometimes more prudent to beat a hasty retreat rather than waste your time and energy trying to figure them out.
We must be living in the least creative period in the history of the world. It would seem to me that there must be many words that one could substitute for the word, icon, yet studies show that it has been used in conversations and news reports over 30,000 times.
But I don’t know of any word that has been used as excessively, for such a long period of time, in just about every area of life as the word, journey. I first encountered it about forty years ago when I was studying metaphysics.
I originally embraced this word to describe all of life, from birth to death, to the afterlife. And it was a lovely word until I started hearing it applied to everything except as a descriptive for people going on a trip, or embarking on an expedition or taking a holiday.
When I go to a gas station to fill the tank I almost expect someone to wish me a safe journey. They usually don’t, but just about everyone else uses the word to describe something that has no relevance to travel. I even heard a newscaster use the word and it had nothing to do with a safari or a documentary or anything that involved a few pieces of luggage.
So, I’m thinking that it’s time that I take some of these words out of mothballs and let them enjoy their journey into my conversations where I can communicate more effectively by interfacing with as many people as I can. I would also like to communicate with the people who design the computer programs that are being created as a paradigm for our culture. These iconic devices should be programmed to eliminate at least 50% of the icons presently in use. With so many more inventions waiting to hit the market, these outdated icons should be retired from use so that the new ones can start out on their computer journey.
There. I think that covers all the words I had eliminated from my vocabulary and they may even make sense in a convoluted way.
Have a happy journey and don’t be afraid to interface with all of society instead of just sitting at your computer, which has now become iconic, and moving your icons around the screen.
Retrieved from “http://www.articlesbase.com/public-speaking-articles/dont-communicate-with-me-just-talk-to-me-5423786.html”
Connie H. Deutsch -
About the Author:
Connie H. Deutsch is an internationally known business consultant and personal advisor who has a keen understanding of human nature and is a natural problem-solver. She is known throughout the world for helping clients find workable solutions to complex problems.
Connie has hosted her own weekly radio show, been a weekly guest on a morning radio show, done guest spots on radio shows around the country, and appeared as a guest on a cable television show. Connie wrote a weekly newspaper Advice Column for sixteen years and has been invited to speak at local colleges and given lectures around the country. She also wrote the scripts for a weekly financial show on cable television.
Connie is the author of the book, “Whispers of the Soul” and is the co-author of an E-book, “Getting Rich While the World Falls Apart” which is being offered as a free download on her website. She has also written and produced two CDs on Meditation and Relationships and has done coaching on customer service and employee relationships. Her website is: http://www.conniehdeutsch.com For her articles click here:
]]>
Questions and Answers
Ask our experts your Public Speaking related questions here…
200 Characters left
I i love someone even he like me to but the problem is this when he is in his universty he didnot talk me as he talk to me in the nite on mobile chat .he didnot did disuss serious problem just sex
If you don’t go to community service, do they send you right to jail or do you just get sent back to court and given more community service hours?
I cant talk with anyone more than 5 minutes.i dont know what to talk
Rate this Article
vote(s)
1 vote(s)
0) {
ch_selected = Math.floor(Math.random()*ch_queries.length);
if(ch_selected == ch_queries.length) ch_selected–;
ch_query = ch_queries[ch_selected];
}
}catch(e){
ch_query = document.title;
}
]]>
Article Tags:
iconic, journey, paradigm, communicate, interfacing, icon, talk, conversation, excessive, voice mail, news
Latest Public Speaking Articles
More from Connie H. Deutsch
Main Speakers During Rallies And Strikes
During the course of rallies and strikes, they appoint a keynote speaker to help them in encouraging their members or their followers to know exactly what they believe in. The different speakers they invite in the strike or rallies are those who believe in their cause and support them fully. Some are members of the church, some are senior members of a certain company or establishment and others political figures or local celebrities.
By:
Basil Lovel
Self Improvement>
Public Speakingl
Nov 23, 2011
To date the most anticipated and highly watched award presentation is the Oscar awards or the Academy Awards in the film industry. There are many keynote speakers and sub speakers who will go on stage and discuss about how the film industry is progressing, about new movies they are promoting, or showing clips of films they have just released.
By:
Basil Lovel
Self Improvement>
Public Speakingl
Nov 23, 2011
When talking about keynote speakers, most people think of well dressed speakers speaking in a convention or a seminar. They are half true, keynote speakers are often invited or hired to speak in trainings, seminars, conventions and conferences.
By:
Basil Lovel
Self Improvement>
Public Speakingl
Nov 21, 2011
Main Speaker In A High School Reunion
During high school reunions, it is important that a keynote speaker must be assigned, invited or perhaps hired to speak. To talk and reminisce about high school life and how people was back then.
By:
Basil Lovel
Self Improvement>
Public Speakingl
Nov 21, 2011
The fashion industry has given women a distorted view of what their body should look like. Men fantasize about having Barbie doll bed partners and women try to acquire the droolworthy kind of shape that causes men to fall at their feet.
By:
Connie H. Deutschl
News and Society>
Women’s Issuesl
Nov 20, 2011
In the old days, protests weren’t organized and they accomplished nothing. Today’s protests are very organized, often go viral, and are successful.
By:
Connie H. Deutschl
News and Society>
Causes & Organizationsl
Nov 13, 2011
We might not be able to part the Red Sea or turn water into wine but each of us has the ability to perform smaller miracles.
By:
Connie H. Deutschl
Spirituality>
Metaphysicsl
Nov 11, 2011
From the time we are born, we are always on our way to becoming something. When we look back, we can measure our progress by the way our thoughts and actions have defined our life.
By:
Connie H. Deutschl
Spirituality>
Metaphysicsl
Nov 05, 2011
Discuss this Article
Author Navigation
My Home
Publish Article
View/Edit Articles
View/Edit Q&A
Edit your Account
Manage Authors
Statistics Page
Personal RSS Builder
My Home
Edit your Account
Update Profile
View/Edit Q&A
Publish Article
Author Box
Connie H. Deutsch has 69 articles online
Articles Categories
All Categories
Advertising
Arts & Entertainment
Automotive
Beauty
Business
Careers
Computers
Education
Finance
Food and Beverage
Health
Hobbies
Home and Family
Home Improvement
Internet
Law
Marketing
News and Society
Relationships
Self Improvement
Shopping
Spirituality
Sports and Fitness
Technology
Travel
Writing
Addictions
Advice
Coaching
Goal Setting
Law of Attraction
Motivational
NLP Hypnosis
Psychology
Public Speaking
Self Help
Stress Management
Time Management
]]>
Need Help?
Contact Us
FAQ
Submit Articles
Editorial Guidelines
Blog
Site Links
Recent Articles
Top Authors
Top Articles
Find Articles
Site Map
Mobile Version
Webmasters
RSS Builder
RSS
Link to Us
Business Info
Advertising
Use of this web site constitutes acceptance of the Terms Of Use and Privacy Policy | User published content is licensed under a Creative Commons License.
Copyright © 2005-2011 Free Articles by ArticlesBase.com, All rights reserved.
Connie H. Deutsch is an internationally known business consultant and personal advisor who has a keen understanding of human nature and is a natural problem-solver. She is known throughout the world for helping clients find workable solutions to complex problems.Connie has hosted her own weekly radio show, been a weekly guest on a morning radio show, done guest spots on radio shows around the country, and appeared as a guest on a cable television show. Connie wrote a weekly newspaper Advice Column for sixteen years and has been invited to speak at local colleges and given lectures around the country. She also wrote the scripts for a weekly financial show on cable television.Connie is the author of the book, “Whispers of the Soul” and is the co-author of an E-book, “Getting Rich While the World Falls Apart” which is being offered as a free download on her website. She has also written and produced two CDs on Meditation and Relationships and has done coaching on customer service and employee relationships. Her website is: http://www.conniehdeutsch.com For her articles click here:
Article Source
Share this:
Read also:
- 3 Ways to Be More Expressive in Public Speaking
- How To Make Your Voice Sound Good – Training For A Deeper Sexier And More Attractive Voice
- Ken's Public Speaking Tips #1
- How to Make Your Presentations Go from Boring to Bravo by Kristin Arnold
- How Men and Women Communicate and some reason why it is so Different
- How To Write A Powerful Speech Introduction